What Do You Love To Do?

On 01/23/202201/23/2022 By PamelaIn Writing6 Comments

(Scheduled post.)

The work and time authors put into writing their book is a task that is both challenging and rewarding. It’s almost doesn’t feel like work, but it is. Then there’s the reader who gets experienced in the world in which the characters lived. And go on this journey with the characters.

Being an avid reader is something that had done more than give me a place to escape. It is both relaxing and gives me this “book high.”

As I went through the days, weeks, and months of last year, so much had happened that I can’t even begin to list them all. I had gotten away and moved from an abusive ex where the person and environment took toxic to a whole other level. I was sick two months straight and had to force myself to do everything because I felt like a walking zombie.

In a previous post, I spoke about my doctor who doesn’t really do her job like she should. I ended up getting another doctor and was placed on different medications for my blood pressure. And I also ended up on anxiety/depression medicine.

And I also found out why I was always tired and weak– my blood levels for vitamin D were extremely low. I had gone through a few years with my previous doctor and she always claimed to not know why my health was declining. And here comes the new doctor who knew what to do and was able to get my health where it should be.

I can say so many negatives happened last year, but there were some positives too. I confess, my therapist had to actually help me see that.

Doing that 50-books Goodreads challenge last year had helped me a lot in so many ways. I am still glad I did.

When I published my book on January 22, I was happy but also a little sad. A little sad because like I mentioned before it is the month my dad was born. On Saturday, as I’m writing this, a family member and I were talking about my dad. While there are times I still get emotional even though he passed away almost 19 years ago, this person wanted to bring up bad thoughts they harbored about him.

And all I can think about is the weekend I keep trying to get in touch with my dad the weekend he passed away in November 2003. He was very sick and never wanted us to remember him that away. But all I can remember was trying to get in touch with him because I was supposed to move in with him. And since I couldn’t drive at the time, I had to keep finding someone to take me to him.. Come to find out, I was too late. He died alone and was dead for a whole weekend before anyone knew.

Okay, those memories are making me sad again, and I’m glad it is not November.

What I am saying is, no matter what is going on in your life, doing something you love can really help. Other than reading and writing, music, and watching movies are the things that I can solace in.

What about you? What do you find solace in? Or what do you like to do that you find happiness in?

Love and blessings to you.

— Pamela ❤

Meet Paris: An Interview With My Main Character #MondayBlogs #amwriting

On 08/02/202108/02/2021 By PamelaIn Writing13 Comments

Happy Monday, everyone! How was your weekend?

Today, I have for you is an interview with Paris Thompson. She’s the female main character who has been through a lot of obstacles and had fought to overcome them.

***If you haven’t read Trenton’s interview (Paris’ boyfriend/male main character), please do so by going here.

1. Tell us about yourself, Paris.

Hi everyone! Great to be here. Well, a little about me, I’m a 18-year-old college student majoring in nursing. One sister, no brothers. My parents are divorced. Hmm… what else? I’m currently in therapy for my PTSD. Uh, I had some things in life that threw lemons and dropped rocks on my head. I’m still overcoming the night of my attack, and have nightmares… Can we move on, please?

2. Sure. Do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert?

I’m an introvert most definitely. I’m far from being a social butterfly. It’s very hard to get me to go out and party; I prefer to sit at home, read and watch movies.

At times, I can be even-tempered, then when something sets me off, I get aggressive, moody, and/or too quiet. I can’t let anything go.

3. If I asked you to write an entry in your journal, what would it be about?

It would be about how I’m progressing every day with therapy, and my views on life.

4. What parts of loving come easy to you?

Parts of? (Frowning) Girl, I don’t know what you mean. As in sex “loving” or loving someone?

(Loving someone, or yourself.) Oh. (Lol.)

Well, what I’ve learned is that you have to first love yourself. I thought I once have. I love every part of myself, inside and out. From my physical features to my whole being- the good and the bad and nurturing myself back to fullness, mentally and spiritually. I’m not beating myself up anymore over things I can’t change.

Loving someone, um..hmm… the closeness for sure. Nothing like feeling like you can bond with someone on some deeper level, and connecting on a higher level. The passion- being fully committed to each other and willing to make it work. It more than just the sexual attraction, which nothing is wrong with that, you got to have more.

Love isn’t easy. I know that now. It’s an unhurried and fulfilling process with the right one. With me and Trent, we’re taking it slow, and rebuilding one day at a time.

5. What can you tell us about yourself that most people, like family for instance, doesn’t know?

I, uh- hmm… I can’t say at the moment. (Looking nervously around, twiddling her thumbs.)

6. Did you have a happy childhood?Why or why not?

My childhood was okay. My parents tried to make it work being married to each other. They get along well now; sometimes I feel like they do it just for my benefit. They love me; I love them dearly, and they have some kind of love still for each other.

I had only one friend my entire life. My childhood is like any other person’s. Can’t really complain. Then again, there are some dark secrets I’m harboring. Don’t ask what they are, because I couldn’t even say them in the last question.

7. What matters the most to you in life?

Pamela, what matters most to me in life is being happy. And being peaceful. You got to have that. I always felt like no matter what you do, it will never be good enough for anybody. I’m just glad I had suportive family who was there for me even when I was too ashamed to tell them what happened to me and all the unthinkable things I’ve done. Family that cares about you matters.

8. What are some of your interests?
(Smiling) My interests are: reading fiction books by Kimberla Lawson Roby, Carl Weber, E. L. James, James Patterson, and Eric Jerome Dickey. They are my faves. There’s nothing like curling up with a good book and dare someone to bother you.

I like volunteering in the community. Right now, I volunteer at my local hospital. I absolutely love helping the elderly and being there for them in their time of need.

I enjoyed watching horror and romance movies, baking, and riding bikes together with my fam.

9. What is your greatest regret?

My biggest regret is meeting this girl named Caitlin. Gosh! I was so stupid for hanging with her when I knew she was bad news. There was signs pointing in every direction, but did I take heed?- no! I kept going around the damn girl because she brought excitement into my life, thrills, the glamorous life.

At times, I was bored because I had nothing else better to do with myself. She was an outlet for me. However, all that led to my boyfriend and me having a strained relationship; I nearly lost him, and I ended up being addicted to sex and drugs. I lost my self-respect and dignity. Oh, yeah, I ended up in a nuthouse. So, yeah, I regretted meeting HER!

10. If you could change anything about your life, what would it be?

Basically what I’ve mentioned for the last question. So, I would changed my vulnerability towards the people I meet. I would change my ability to be more focus when times get tough; especially when last year upon meeting Caitlin, I felt abandoned or neglected by those I love. She used that time of weakness to prey on me. I want to change to being a MUCH better me, one day at a time.

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This concludes my interview with Paris. Thank you, Paris!

I hope to you all that this interview helps give you a clear understanding on who Paris is and what she shared with us today. Her life was distressing at times, but worth writing about, because I felt empathy towards her struggles, trials, and determination to turned her life around.

As for the part 2 of Trent’s interview, I’m still waiting for a response on when he is available since our interview was previously cut short and he had more to share with us.

Thank you for stopping by and reading!

An Interview With My Main Character (Trenton) #MondayBlogs #author #fiction #writing

On 07/26/202108/02/2021 By PamelaIn Writing19 Comments

Going back through my character development, here’s an interview I had with my male main character named Trenton Devereaux.

1. Tell us a little about yourself.

Hi lovelies, I’m Trenton Devereaux from Cherry Gardens in Jamaica. I’m 21-year-old, go to college in Columbia, S.C., have an infant son, and I’m a no-nonsense type of person, so don’t come at me with the b.s. Just kidding.. but don’t.

Anything else?

Anything like what? Guh, you are so nosy. Well… I’m a suspect in a murder case. They said twenty-so people were killed up the interstate in a warehouse, but I know nothing about that. (He shrugged nonchalantly, twisting his mouth.) Next question.

2. Okay, what is it that you love most about life?

Hmm, I love how well my son is doing. He’s five months old now, and my family is very supportive. God bless them. I love how my girlfriend and I came, uh… I mean, how far within a year’s time. We had drama, cheating, drugs, and negative people coming between us, yet we fought and fought, and we’re still together.

3. That is great you two are still together. Which brings me to my next question: How do you decide if you can trust someone?

Ah, well, to me, a person has to earn trust, just like they would with respect. So, I give every person a starting chance, unless I initially picked up bad vibes from them, just like I’ve done last year… anyway, I go by their actions to sum it up if I can trust them or not.

4. What three words best describe your personality?

Strong, ambitious, and a risk-taker.

5. What are your greatest talents?

(Smiling.) Well then, since you asked, dancing for one. I love moving to the beats in dancehall music, ska, and ska jazz. If you aren’t sure what ska is, look it up; I’ll be here all day just talking about it, or you can come to a dance club I know to show you what it’s like.

Hmm… other talents: singing, writing poetry, I can cook my ass off, la-dee-da, and the last is for my woman to know. LOL!

6. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be?

Not a damn thing.

7. What is your typical day like?

I start my day off by tending to my son, and then I would meditate since I need it more than ever now—some light yoga or a run, breakfast, depending on the day, school, or work.

I also use my time to render aid in the community. It doesn’t matter how much money you have; you still need to do something; whether it’s through donation, raising money, or doing volunteer work. I use my free time to help others.

8. What are your greatest fears?

I fear losing someone close to me in any way, whether it’s death, to the law, or whatever; it would tear me apart.

9. What or who is the greatest love of your life?

You should know who, but I will say it, Paris is the greatest love of my life along with my son. She has been there through thick and thin, loves my son as her own, and had shown me what real love is. I’ll give her the world if I could. I’ll do anything I can for her.

10. When and where were you the happiest?

(Smiling endearing) The happiest time of my life thus far is the birth of my son. Wow, T.J. makes my heart swells up with joy and makes me work harder every day to do right by him. He’s so precious, mon; even though his mom schemed into being pregnant with him, it doesn’t change how I feel about him like most guys would to a girl who trapped them. I love that kid so much. (Sniffling)

This concludes my interview with Trenton. I had more questions to asked, but his schedule was tight.

Will there be a second interview for a more in-depth look into his life? I’ll have to check with his people. (Wink)

P.S. I do have an interview with Miss Paris Thompson herself. She’s the female main character and Trent’s girlfriend. You can find her interview here.

I hope you enjoyed Trent’s interview, and if you have any questions of your own you would like for me to ask, please feel free to ask in the comments.

Thank you, and enjoy your day!

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The Many Phases Of Writing #NaNoWriMo #amwriting

On 11/15/201711/15/2017 By PamelaIn Writing2 Comments

How is everyone doing so far with #NaNoWriMo? We go through many phases during this writing process. Some days are good, some not. One thing I know for sure is that you can’t find the time to write, you have to MAKE the time, the best you can.

Well, so far, my word count is still not up where I would like for it to be. And, it bothers me to be around people who gets so intimidated by your writing that they will try to do everything in their power to sabotage and/or manipulate it. (That’s for another post.)

Every day I’m pushing myself to at least write/type something. It’s…going…okay.

Keep going, and going, no matter what people say.

The Unhappy Wife by @kegarland- My First Book Review

On 12/10/201604/13/2017 By PamelaIn Writing11 Comments

When I first glanced at the book, The Unhappy Wife by author KE Garland who is a dear friend and blogger, I was excited and anxious. I’m not married and never was, though it taught me to put myself first, and to not confused abuse of any kind as love.

As I stared at the electronic book in my hands, I couldn’t wait to swiped the pages to began reading. The stories are based on real women’s true stories about their experiences on marriage.

This is my first time doing a book review or any kind of review here, so I may reflect back to a certain time in my life and/or a woman I once knew from church who had gone through a similar situation as the women in this book. I won’t give much away; you have to go and read it for yourself if you haven’t done so yet.

There was this one story that took me back to a time witnessing the women of the church who would so-called “put” two people together in the name of Christ. I’m from and still is in the South and we rolled like that. Well, except me; I rolled my own way. Lol. It was difficult getting through that time then.

Back to the story, I frowned because of this Mrs. C woman telling the female, Jasmyne what she should do despite what were clearly going on like she haven’t a clue. Jasmyne clearly didn’t want to marry the guy, and it appeared she was pressured into doing so. The guy was a definite loser and took full advantage of a good woman.

She married him anyway in spite of the signs and red flags being present in front of her. When she felt like she couldn’t take anymore of his frigging crap, she did something that gave me hope; she made the choice to get a divorce. Way to go, girl!

Gina’s story makes me not want to get marry, if I ever had the thought in the first place, but there are men out there who will prey on you before and after the nuptials. There’s no way I could go through not being around my family for a guy… again.

My own family and I aren’t close anyway, and I really don’t like being told what I can and can’t do particularly by a man, and I was NEVER married. Gina even had to choose between the man and her dog! Oh! My heart is with her and the rest of the women. I won’t indulge more.

I recommend this book to anyone, whether you’re single, engaged, or married. It doesn’t even matter what your race, gender, sexual orientation or religion is either; The Unhappy Wife is worth the read.

These women found strength, courage, and the ability to find happiness within themselves as for in their lives. You can even be in a relationship, and what the women gone through is happening or has happened to you.

Love, your life, your happiness and marriage are nothing to toy with, and people must know what they are getting into no matter what your statuses are.

I’ve enjoyed reading this book along with some tears, nails biting and emotions that overwhelmed me, but taught me to love myself first. To know what I want out of life and to be honest to the fact. It’s a great deal to me.

Many thanks to Kathy and the women for sharing with us. 🙏