Love: To Be or Not to Be


What’s the definition of love? Love is an emotion and a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. With that being said, why have some of us fail to manage to do something so elementary?

Years ago, I thought I knew what love really means.  I may or may not truly know what it “feels” like, but I have learned to love who I am. Because self-love feels good and who can love you better than you love yourself.

There may be people who may do something nice for you or even carry out a plan to show their gratitude for what you have done for them, but is it truly love? Some will love you only if you are doing things for them. And some just may be genuine.

Let’s talk about relationships. When you are in a relationship with this person you feel very much passionate about, is it love or is it really lust? What brought the two of you together? What were the person’s characteristics? Some of us waste no time jumping into a relationship because we “felt” something for the other person. Our heart’s desire clouding us with something that can be so deceitful. But, love can also be a beautiful thing.

To be love can take on something so extraordinary.  Especially when one is in a romantic relationship. In an article I read,  it says  “during the initial stages of a romantic relationship, there is more often more emphasis on emotions—especially those of loveintimacy, compassionappreciation, and affinity—rather than physical intimacy.”

I agree with that statement.  Why do you think there’s more emphasis on emotions, as well as the above? It’s because when you’re in a romantic relationship, those are the criteria necessary for a productive romance, but is that all? I have known a lot of people who said that they had all of those criteria, but their relationship/marriage didn’t last. I have always wondered what went wrong. Sometimes, the person may have become bored with the relationship or with the person. It’s exhausting as you have to always innovate, do something new, upgrade maybe.

Sometimes, we get comfortable, too comfortable, and settle into a routine. Don’t settle into a routine. And, definitely don’t settle when it comes to the bedroom either.  You have to spice things up. Give your lover something so unexpected that it will blow their mind. Okay. I won’t go into details-you get the picture. But, if they supposedly say they love you, they will make things work. Moreover, it shouldn’t be  just when especially when it boils down to love-making.

Empathy, love, trust, compassion, growth, appreciation, etc are the ones that should stay strong in a romantic relationship. Physical intimacy comes last, because if that’s all you have, instead of the others, then it’s not romance. Not in a relationship or marriage. But, if you and your lover are cool with just being sex buddies or whatever, then do what works for you.

To not be love or loving, you’re in a state of mind when none of the above, excluding physical intimacy, doesn’t matter to you. Either, you have been hurt, emotionally damaged, etc., you want to be free of emotions and all that comes with it. You’re healing from the inside. Perhaps, love isn’t something you seek, like, or want.

For me, I rather give myself time and just do whatever makes me happy. I have gone through where people have shown their true colors and lost my trust. Hurt, betrayal, and lies come to mind. It is better to focus on the betterment of your life and growth than to wait on that fairy tale Prince Charming that’s coming to save you-or not.

It’s a healing process and requires time. Give yourself that time. It’s worth it. Trust me, I know.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

 

intimacya feeling of being intimate and belonging togetherMore (Definitions, Synonyms, Translation)

#MusicMonday- Break Of Dawn #lovesongs


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There have been too many times to count of myself laying back listening to music flowing through my headphones or earbuds over the years. It makes me feel like I have entered another dimension and there have been times when it took me back to that moment I first heard it.

The majority of those songs are like an aphrodisiac that’ll have you in a hypnotic trance well past after it is over. Those songs along with the ones with the lyrics that are so beautiful and sensual, and tells a story where you can visualize them in your mind so vividly.

This song, Break of Dawn, is one of those songs by Michael Jackson that I love intensely. It is a sexy and, oh…so, oh! It is about making love until it’s daylight. (Need I say more?) It would be nice to experience that, right, with the one who loves you? 😛

Well, with making love and all that jazz aside, I hope you all enjoy the song and its lyrics. Let us know in the comments what you think, if you want to that is.

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LYRICS:

[Verse 1]
Hold my hand, feel the touch of your body cling to mine
You and me, making love all the way through another night
I remember you and I walking through the park at night
Kiss and touch, nothing much, let it blow just touch and go
Love me more, never leave me alone by house of love
People talk, people say what we have is just a game
Oh, I’ll never let you go, come here girl
Just got to make sweet love ‘til the break of dawn

[Chorus]
I don’t want the sun to shine I want to make love
Just this magic in your eyes and in my heart
I don’t know what I’m going to do – I can’t stop loving you
I won’t stop ‘til break of dawn making love

[Verse 2]
Hold my hand, feel the sweat, yes you’ve got me nervous yet
Let me groove, let me soothe, let me take you on a cruise
There’s imagination I bet you’ve never been there before
Have you ever wanted to dream about those places you’ve never known

(Break of dawn, break of dawn) there’s no sun up in the sky
(Break of dawn, break of dawn) I can see it in your eyes
(Break of dawn, break of dawn) girl you got to understand
It’s the way that I love you, let me show you I’m your man
Break of dawn

[Chorus]
I don’t want the sun to shine I want to make love
Just this magic in your eyes and in my heart
I don’t know what I’m going to do – I can’t stop loving you
I won’t stop ‘til break of dawn making love
I don’t want the sun to shine I want to make love
Just this magic in your eyes and in my heart
I don’t know what I’m going to do – I can’t stop loving you
I won’t stop ‘til break of dawn making love

[Verse 3]
Let’s not wait, the sun is out, let’s get up and let’s get out
It’s the day, a brand new day, let’s both go outside and play
Let us walk down the park, making love ‘til it’s dark
Let me move, let me soothe, ‘til the break of dawn and you know it’s true, oh

[Chorus]
I don’t want the sun to shine I want to make love
Just this magic in your eyes and in my heart
I don’t know what I’m going to do – I can’t stop loving you
I won’t stop ‘til break of dawn making love
I don’t want the sun to shine I want to make love
Just this magic in your eyes and in my heart
I don’t know what I’m going to do – I can’t stop loving you
I won’t stop ‘til break of dawn making love
I don’t want the sun to shine I want to make love
Just this magic in your eyes and in my heart
I don’t know what I’m going to do – I can’t stop loving you
I won’t stop ‘til break of dawn making love
Break it down

Lyrics Source: Genius.com

Songwriters: Michael Jackson/ Elliot Straite
Break of Dawn lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Warner Chappell Music, Inc, MJJ Productions
Release Date: October 30, 2001

#MusicMonday- Here I Stand #love


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There are songs that will make a person think and feel like you have never felt before. And there are some that will make you feel the true essence of what love is deep into your soul.

Today’s song, Here I Stand is about a man (Usher) who is proving his love to the woman he is love with. And, to tell her that distance will not keep them apart. I supposed that having a love like that and someone showing you with their actions just how much is wonderful and what most people would love to have.

I was pregnant with my daughter when I first heard this song which was the same year it came out. I was already a huge Usher fan and hearing such a beautiful song sung by him had me feeling chills. I wanted to hear the song ALL the time.

I hope you enjoy the lyrics and vocals because it is indeed beautiful.

“Distance means so little, when someone means so much.”

–Tom McNeal

“Distance is not for the fearful, it’s for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those who know a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.”

–Meghan Daum

LYRICS:

[Verse 1]
I’m hoping that this ain’t too hard to believe
‘Cause baby, you’re the only one for me
I know it get hard when I’m moving in and out of state
But I promise my heart for you, I would save
Just remember that…

[Chorus]
No matter how far I go
And no matter how long it takes
No one or nothing can change
Forever yours, here I stand
Here I stand, baby

[Verse 2]
You’re like a mirror to my soul, but a queen, my queen
And finally now I know just what that means, oh yeah
You’re the blessing I never thought I would get
And to the Lord, I humbly bow my head

[Chorus]
Just remember that no matter how far I go
And no matter how long it takes
No one or nothing can change
Forever yours, here I stand

[Bridge]
Ever since you came (since you came along)
It seems like (couldn’t get it right)
Yeah, I felt I sunk so low
That there’s was no way I could be found (never thought love would find me)
And when we make love (everytime you give, give to me your love)
Give, you make me feel a way I never felt with no one else
And I can’t help myself

[Chorus]
I’m telling you that no matter how far I go
And no matter how long it takes
No one or nothing, nothing, baby
Never change the way I feel, I’m your man
Listen, see, forever yours
Yours, all yours, here I stand, yeah
No matter how far I go
And no matter how long it takes
No one or nothing can change
Forever yours, I’ll remain, here I stand

Lyrics Source: Genius.com

Lyrics © JELLYBEAN MUSIC GROUP, Universal Music Publishing Group, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Songtrust Ave, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Release date: May 13, 2008
Label: LaFace

A Night Of True Love and Romance #fiction #amwriting


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We walked the boardwalk underneath the crescent moon in a cloudless sky after indulging in a delectable meal by candlelight. Our hands embraced, eyes locked; we felt a familiar feeling claiming us once again that has been embedded deeply into our souls. Our lips caressed.
Next, we ambled over to a group of musicians by a lighted fountain playing jazz music; a sound so melodic and captivating. We’re enthralled. Our hearts took a front row seat.

After the music ensemble has ended, we set out to watch the sunset by the seashore. Such a magical and breathtaking view to witness. Our bodies then became one. Merged souls filled with lots of love and light.

(A work of fiction. 😃)

© Pamela Hester