#MusicMonday- Show Me The Meaning Of Being Lonely


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There is a lot of us who had gone through a breakup at least once in our lives. It hurts so much and it leaves us questioning life and why things have to be that make you hurt so much.

I’ve picked the song, Show Me The Meaning Of Being Lonely for today’s #MusicMonday for that reason. And that is because it talks about how and when someone we love is no longer in our lives it makes us feel lonely. And there is nothing wrong with that. It is normal to feel that way, but not when you allow it to become part of your life where you’re shutting out the world and people who care about you. And doing so long-term.

It’s the heartache from a person who had physically left your life in a way that they would not be coming back- unless in the spirit form. I was 19 years old when my dad had passed away. I had experienced the worst heartbreak in my life because I know he is not going to come back. It is a sad discovery to know that a person you are so close to had been taken from your life so soon and without warning. Even though I had people around me, I still felt lonely and there are times where I would cry out to him in hopes that he could possibly hear me.

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You see, the same weekend he passed away, I was to go live with him. Upon having my bags getting ready to be packed, I couldn’t get in touch with him to find out the exact day and time he wanted me to come over there. I didn’t know until later that he had died- alone on the living room floor all that time. Same year, my cousin (his niece) died in a car accident. Fast forward, more people I wished I could have given another time to chat with them had passed away.

This song by the Backstreet Boys have always been my all-time favorite song. I have such an emotional connection to this song and so does a lot others I’m sure. The video is so touching and such a tearjerker when watching it. There’s a message in the opening that said:

“This video is dedicated to Denniz POP, and to all those who have lost a loved one.”

Nick Carter, the band member said he had paid homage to Denniz POP in the video, and AJ had dedicated this song to a dear female friend who had passed away in a car accident.

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I won’t make this long and I’m not intentionally trying to make anyone feel sad, but sometimes (or oftentimes) we must think about the ones who had passed on and feel the emotions coursing through our body. It is okay to feel and say that you miss and love them. You are human. It is okay to take a few moments to think about the person and keep the memories of them alive.

It’s okay to say you are hurting and feel lonely, but don’t be alone. There are so many people who are going through what you are going through and you should know that it is okay to reach out and/or seek whatever therapy you may need.

LYRICS:

Intro:
Show me the meaning of being lonely

Verse 1:
So many words for the broken heart
It is hard to see in a crimson love
So hard to breathe
Walk with me and maybe
Nights of light so soon become
Wild and free I could feel the sun
Your every wish will be done
They tell me

Chorus:
Show me the meaning of being lonely
Is this the feeling I need to walk with
Tell me why I can’t be there where you are?
There is something missing in my heart

Verse 2:
Life goes on as it never ends
Eyes of stone observe the trends
They never say forever gaze, if only
Guilty roads to an endless love (endless love)
There is no control, are you with me now?
Your every wish will be done
They tell me

Chorus:
Show me the meaning of being lonely
Is this the feeling I need to walk with (tell me why)
Tell me why I can’t be there where you are?
There is something missing in my heart (heart!)

Bridge:
There is nowhere to run
I have no place to go
Surrender my heart, body, and soul
How can it be you are asking me
To feel the things you never show?
(Show-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh!)

Interlude:
You are missing in my heart
Tell me why can’t I be there where you are?

Chorus:
Show me the meaning of being lonely (being lonely)
Is this the feeling I need to walk with (tell me why)
Tell me why I can’t be there where you are? (where you are)
There is something missing in my heart
(You are missing from my heart)
Show me the meaning of being lonely (being lonely)
Is this the feeling I need to walk with
Tell me why I cannot be there where you are? (where you are)
There is something missing in my heart

Lyrics Source: Genius.com

Songwriters: Herbert St Clair Crichlow / Martin Max
Show Me the Meaning of Being Lonely lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Warner Chappell Music, Inc
Release Date: December 21, 1999

What are your thoughts about this? Have you ever experienced feeling this type of loneliness?

#MusicMonday- My Writing Love Playlist


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    Edited by: Pamela Hester

    I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend. How are you today? Today for #MusicMonday, I am doing something a bit different. I would like to share with you a playlist I created called Writing Love. Sometimes when I am writing certain scenes, music plays its part in helping me to write them, and when it comes to the characters. It builds the mood for me as well. I am still putting together the playlist, but would still like to share the fifteen I currently have.

    Majority of these songs I have listened to while writing and editing the Secrets series novels. I won’t go in-depth about it in this post, but I’ll save it for another time. I believe songs can take a person to that level that they may have never been to before. And to a level that they may not have been to in a while.

    Also, the majority of these songs are based on my characters on how they feel about certain things, people, and themselves. The songs also tell its own story. They can be based on what my characters are going through as well.

    I truly believe that when you write, especially with fiction, you have to feel how the characters are feeling. Understand their thoughts, and so on. I can go on and on about music and writing- two of my favorite things- but it will take several days. Lol.

    To view all the songs, you can click the horizontal lines where it says, 1/15.

    Songs In Playlist:

    1) Bob Marley- Is This Love


    2) Frankie Valli- I Love You Baby

    “But if you feel like I feel,
    please let me know that it’s real
    You’re just too good to be true,
    can’t take my eyes off of you
    I love you baby and if it’s quite all right,
    I need you baby to warm the lonely nights
    I love you baby trust in me when I say”


    3) H.E.R.- Best Part

    “I just wanna see
    I just wanna see how beautiful you are
    You know that I see it
    I know you’re a star
    Where you go I follow
    No matter how far
    If life is a movie
    Oh you’re the best part, oh oh oh
    You’re the best part, oh oh oh
    Best part”


    4) Khalid- Talk

    “Can’t we just talk?
    Can’t we just talk?
    Talk about where we’re goin’
    Before we get lost
    Let me out first
    Can’t get what we want without knowin’
    I’ve never felt like this before
    I apologize if I’m movin’ too far
    Can’t we just talk?
    Can’t we just talk?
    Figure out where we’re goin'”


    5) Keyshia Cole- Heaven Sent


    6) Bonnie Raiit- Something To Talk About


    7) Chris Stapleton- Tennessee Whiskey

    “I’ve looked for love in all the same old places
    Found the bottom of a bottle’s always dry
    But when you poured out your heart I didn’t waste it
    ‘Cause there’s nothing like your love to get me high
    You’re as smooth as Tennessee whiskey
    You’re as sweet as strawberry wine
    You’re as warm as a glass of brandy
    And honey, I stay stoned on your love all the time”

    8) Selena- Dreaming Of You

    “Now I’m dreaming
    With you tonight
    ‘Till tomorrow
    And for all of my life
    And there’s nowhere in the world I’d rather be
    Than here in my room
    Dreaming with you endlessly
    With you tonight
    And there’s nowhere in the world where I’d rather be
    Than here in my room
    I’ll be dreaming
    Of you tonight
    And I’ll be holding you tight”


    9) Usher- Don’t Waste My Time


    10) Faith Hill- Breathe

    “‘Cause I can feel you breathe
    It’s washing over me
    And suddenly I’m melting into you
    There’s nothing left to prove
    Baby, all we need is just to be
    Caught up in the touch
    Slow and steady rush
    Baby, isn’t that the way that love’s suppose to be
    I can feel you breathe, just breathe”


    11) Anita Baker- Sweet Love

    “Sweet love hear me callin’ out your name
    I feel no shame; I’m in love
    Sweet love, don’t you ever go away
    It’ll always be this way
    There’s no stronger love in this world, Oh, baby, no
    You’re my man; I’m your girl
    I’ll never go. Wait and see, can’t be wrong”
    Don’t you know this is where you belong?

    12) Snoop Dogg- Sensual Seduction


    13) Tanto Metro & Devonte- Everyone Falls In Love


    14) Wale ft. Usher- Matrimony (Jerry Seinfield in the beginning talking)

    “If there’s a question of my heart, you’ve got it
    It don’t belong to anyone but you
    If there’s a question of my love, you’ve got it
    Baby don’t worry, I’ve got plans for you
    Baby, I’ve been making plans, oh love
    Baby, I’ve been making plans for you
    Baby, I’ve been making plans
    Baby, I’ve been making plans for you”


    15) Beyonce- Crazy In Love (remix)

    “I look and stare so deep in your eyes
    I touch on you more and more every time
    When you leave, I’m begging you not to go
    Call your name two, three times in a row
    Such a funny thing for me to try to explain
    How I’m feeling and my pride is the one to blame
    ‘Cause I know I don’t understand
    Just how your love can do what no one else can”

    Does songs play a part when it comes to your writing? Which ones?

    When Does the Mask Comes Off? #TuesdayThoughts 


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    Reposted.

    It had never occurred to me that you can go through life with someone for so many years and still not know them. Most people put on masks for whom they like to portray for at that moment, and leave you in utter shock at the fact that they’d manipulated, betrayed you for so long. They will make themselves out to be the victim when all along they played you like a used up fiddle.Have you ever been to the point where you just want to throw your hands up and say, F**k it! I’m tired of fighting and redeeming myself loyal and worthy. “?

    When you had dealt with a person you thought you can trust, and they turned around and done the unthinkable, you lose a part of yourself every day. Like a good-hearted person, you want to give them a chance. But, how many chances can you give them time after an exhausting time?

    When does the mask come off? Who are they really? Love shouldn’t have to be so hard.

    Your heart is bleeding. You are fighting your way out of a dark tunnel- to a light that shines bright to another day. Your soul can’t go on any longer in such a toxic situation. Where is the peace? When and how can you lift yourself up to remove yourself out of a tangled web you didn’t weave to begin with?

    Know that you are loved. You are special and don’t deserve any type of abuse. You will come out of whatever negative and toxic situation you are in. Take it one day at a time.

    Love yourself first. Have a wonderful day! 🌹

    From 2016