Are You Being Taken For Granted? #YouAreWorthMore

Have anyone ever been taken for granted? Felt unloved? Felt used? A lot of us have, but why? We asked ourselves those questions everyday. Why do we put up with the things we go through? For one, we allowed ourselves to go through. Secondly, we put too much trust in the other person. Never give a person any power over you. Never settle for less and never allow others to bring you down to your lowest. When you are at your lowest, you feel stuck, sinking in what feels like an ever-moving quick sand. One thing about being in quick sand, if there is nothing around to grab and/or hold on to, you’re a goner.

Know that you can overcome any and all obstacles that comes your way. No one but your God has rule over your life and everything within. You are better than what people say you are. They are only drowning in their own sorrows and misery life. The saying is true, “misery loves company”.  And,  it has never been more true. Most of us don’t mean to allow ourselves being used and taken granted for because we are blinded. Invisible strips covering our eyes and only allowing what we think is true to come forth. Instead, we go on and pray that our situation will change; hopefully for the better. Some of us have the strength to move forward, because we had had enough. That is when our destiny goes into effect.  Wouldn’t that be copacetic?

So, whether you are friends, lovers, married,  etc., know who this person truly is before pursuing them and take off your blinders. For, they wear masks, hiding their identity.  They transform from someone you came to like/love and appreciate to someone whom you despises.

So, make it your duty, whether you been mistreated before or not, and know what you are getting into. Don’t put so much trust into anyone who doesn’t mean you any good at all. You have self-worth.  When you know your self-worth, then you will know exactly what I mean. Be happy and rejoice in yourself and in your life. There are real people out there that mean you well.

Take care loves,

Pamela Hester


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Writing Challenge (Day 2)- Earliest Memories Uncovered

For Day 2 of this writing challenge, I am to write about my earliest memories and since I don’t care to share that, I shall move further into my teen years.

I have never been popular in middle or high school, yet most folks will come to me for advice. For if you haven’t noticed, I’m more of an introvert. I will emulate a hermit crab when I feel the need to shut off the world or when I’m scared or angry. Most times I will lash out when I’m angry if I feel like I’m being mistreated or bullied. I’m also an Aries and I blame most of my personality on that dreaded zodiac sign.

I have spent the most better parts of my life shutting myself off from the world. Throw some ear buds in my ear and drown out the woes of the world with various genres of music. I’m empathic, intensely, and will make someone else problems my own.

One time in middle school, a girl found out she was pregnant and was afraid of her mother finding out. She had to be about thirteen then and I felt bad for her. My own life was in shambles and oftentimes I was afraid of “home”. Afraid to do anything or simply just be because I was in an environment that didn’t suited me. No matter what I do wasn’t good enough.

I held the weight of the world on my shoulders, especially when my siblings and I was taken away from our parents to go live with a relative who could had care less about us. Greed blind-sighted most, and my entire teen years hardened me for I would walked around with a huge chip on my shoulder. I could never understand how the authorities could take children out of a happy, loving home into something so sinister.

As time dwelled on, I left, more like ran away. I moved in with cousins who cared enough to take me in. I felt better about me, enjoyed being a teen even graduated from high school on time.

As I think back on my memories that I thought were exorcised, I went through downfalls after another, roller coaster rides that spiraled out of control to being thrown flat on my face. I don’t claimed to be perfect, obviously, but I tried to do my best in this crazy world. How can a person take advantage of another? Used and abused them? How you treat your children when they are coming up may impact their lives for the better or the worst.

It has been a bit difficult to do Day 2 of this challenge. Reaching back to the far recesses of your mind that held dark, ugly truths and memories, is too much to deal with. I left out a lot, cause some are a little too personal and I sometimes wonder if I can tell that story.

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This is a true statement that speak loud and clear. I have been a victim of this and learning everyday.  Do not ever allow anyone to take you to that dark place that’ll make you come out of your character. It’s an awful sight. Oh what a world this could be if everyone show love or if not, stay silent. Stay strong my friends, stay true.


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