When Does the Mask Comes Off? #TuesdayThoughts 


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It had never occurred to me that you can go through life with someone for so many years and still not know them. Most people put on masks for whom they like to portray for at that moment, and leave you in utter shock at the fact that they’d manipulated, betrayed you for so long. They will make themselves out to be the victim when all along they played you like a used up fiddle.Have you ever been to the point where you just want to throw your hands up and say, F**k it! I’m tired of fighting and redeeming myself loyal and worthy. “?

When you had dealt with a person you thought you can trust, and they turned around and done the unthinkable, you lose a part of yourself every day. Like a good-hearted person, you want to give them a chance. But, how many chances can you give them time after an exhausting time?

When does the mask come off? Who are they really? Love shouldn’t have to be so hard.

Your heart is bleeding. You are fighting your way out of a dark tunnel- to a light that shines bright to another day. Your soul can’t go on any longer in such a toxic situation. Where is the peace? When and how can you lift yourself up to remove yourself out of a tangled web you didn’t weave to begin with?

Know that you are loved. You are special and don’t deserve any type of abuse. You will come out of whatever negative and toxic situation you are in. Take it one day at a time.

Love yourself first. Have a wonderful day! 🌹

From 2016

 

PressThis: How to Publish an Ebook: Resources for Authors | Jane Friedman #MondayBlogs


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For today’s post, I am sharing an article about #selfpublishing that has resources for writers and authors I’ve found to be useful. It has plenty of resources from ebook files, distributors, marketing, and more.


A round-up of the best resources and tools for how to publish an ebook.

About the only thing that remains constant in ebook publishing is that it changes—everything from the services to marketing strategies. Here, I regularly update best resources I know of related to learning to publish an ebook, finding the right e-publishing distributors and services, and staying on top of changes in the industry.

Creating Basic Ebook Files

Assuming you have a finished and polished manuscript ready to be published, your first task is to create an ebook file; EPUB is the industry standard ebook format accepted by nearly all retailers. Unfortunately, this cannot be done through a simple Word export, but many tools and services will help you prep an EPUB file. (While most retailers and distributors try to offer good Word-to-ebook conversion, results and quality vary tremendously. Use them with caution.)

  • Vellum: easy-to-use software for Mac users only to produce EPUB files
  • PressBooks: a WordPress-based system for producing both EPUB and print files
  • Scrivener: this writing software is not free, but it can export EPUB files
  • Apple Pages (can export EPUB files)
  • Sigil: an open-source software for producing EPUB files, requires some tech savvy
  • Reedsy: you can copy/paste your work into its free online editor, then export EPUB files
  • Draft2Digital: you can upload your Word doc for EPUB conversion even if you don’t use them as your distributor
  • Calibre: free software that’s useful for file conversion to/from EPUB, but some find it difficult to use

If you don’t want the headache of creating your own ebook files, check out the services at eBookPartnership.

Creating Enhanced, Multimedia, or Full-Color Ebooks

If you’re publishing a highly illustrated work, such as a children’s picture book, an enhanced ebook, or need to have a fixed layout book—where text doesn’t reflow from page to page—you’ll either need to hire someone or use a special portal for publishing and distributing your work.

  • KDP Kids’ Book Creator: for creating children’s picture books
  • Blurb: produces print + digital full-color books, with distribution to major retailers
  • Book Creator: iPad app for illustrated books, great for children’s authors
  • Again, if you need assistance preparing your ebook files, try eBookPartnership.

Choosing Your Ebook Retailers and Distributors

Ebook distribution to major retail outlets is free and fairly straightforward, at least once you have ebook files ready to go. (Your upfront costs are almost always connected to the effort of designing, formatting, and producing those files, whether the cover and the interior—not distribution.)

Assuming you have ebook files ready to go, you have a choice to make: Would you rather deal with each online retailer directly, or would you rather reach them through an ebook distribution service?

  • Working directly with online retailers usually means better profits, more control, and more access to marketing/promotion tools (but not always).
  • Working with ebook distribution services usually means giving up a percentage of your profits to the distributor, in exchange for the centralized administration and management of all your titles. Some ebook distributors can also reach outlets you can’t on your own, such as the library market, and may offer you helpful tools to optimize book sales and marketing.

The good news is that you don’t have to choose between working directly with online retailers and using ebook distributors, since it’s rare for any distributor to demand exclusivity. For example, you could choose to work directly with Amazon KDP to sell your ebooks on Amazon, then use an ebook distributor such as Draft2Digital or Smashwords to reach other retailers. Or you could choose to distribute directly to Amazon, Apple, Kobo, and Nook (by using their do-it-yourself portals), then use Smashwords to capture the rest of the market (such as Scribd and libraries).

Bottom line: There’s no one right way to go about it, since it depends on your time and resources, your books, and your marketing strategy. You can also change your mind at any time (although not without some administration hassle and sales downtime).

Most important ebook retailers in the English-language markets

  • Amazon. Probably sells 60-80% of all ebooks, more for some authors and titles.
  • Apple Books. Widely considered the No. 2 ebook retailer in U.S.
  • Barnes & Noble Nook Press. Sales have been dropping significantly over the last couple years.
  • Kobo. Gaining ground, international presence. Important for the Canadian market.

Key ebook distributors

  • Smashwords. The largest ebook distributor of self-published titles that’s been around the longest and has the widest reach, particularly to the library market. No upfront cost; they take a cut of your sales.
  • Draft2Digital. Similar to Smashwords, but smaller and more customer-service focused. They take a cut of your sales.

Optimizing Your Product Page and Description

When you upload your ebook to retailers, you need to craft strong book descriptions, research your best categories and keywords, and do whatever you can to increase the likelihood that someone who sees your book page on Amazon will make a purchase.

Sales, Marketing, and Promotion

By far the hardest part of ebook publishing is making readers aware your book exists—then convincing them to buy it.

 

(Click on the link below to continue reading.)

Source: How to Publish an Ebook: Resources for Authors | Jane Friedman

 

 

 

#MusicMonday- Just Like Animals


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I hope everyone has had a wonderful New Year, and that your weekend has went well.

Close to the end of last summer, I had started #MusicMonday to blog about love songs that have meaning(s), purpose, etc. It was something that had popped into my head and I dwelled on it for a while before getting started, to be honest. I seriously didn’t know how long I was going to be doing this. The first three vertical posts you see below I was thinking about stopping, but as most of you know I kept going.

These are the first 3 #MusicMonday posts I started with.

Okay, I’m going off-course here. Today’s post is about how people take love to a level that is unhealthy or toxic for them. I know I have posts songs about being in love and such, but this time for the first Monday of the year, I want to hit on the subject of people who have those types of issues. Why? Because it is important. Some people have a strong attraction to others that they are having a hard time letting go of, especially when it is indeed over. Oftentimes, it can be a physical thing, like for instance: their looks, body, or sex with them.

The guy, Adam Levine in the video called, Animals, is being a stalker and clearly obsessed with the woman who played by his real-life wife. We all know some people are like this in real life. The ones who won’t take no for an answer and will physically stalk and cyber-stalk you, and may even cause hell for you. And they will try to convince you that you may run but can’t hide from them. They may even tell you that they are and will always be the best person for you and no one else can compare to them.

Maroon 5 animals maroon 5 GIF

I’m telling you. There are people out there who are literally like animals (in a bad way), and you will have to be super careful with the ones who also use sex as a way to “keep” you. And, the ones who only wanted sex in the beginning and you, well, or the other person done caught feelings somewhere down the line may feel like they been taken advantage of.

Okay. Enough of that for a moment; you get the point. I didn’t link the official video of this song by Maroon 5 because it is explicit in some sense. I had only stared at it, and some parts don’t bother me. However, some parts may be disturbing to some people, and I have to respect that or give you some type of warning. So, I just posted the audio to be on the safe side. I love the song, and I love Maroon 5’s songs. If you would like to watch the official video you can check it out here.

** Everyone, please be safe out there. Not just with this pandemic because you already know that, but with your heart and body.

Love,

Pamela

LYRICS:

[Chorus]
Baby, I’m preying on you tonight
Hunt you down, eat you alive
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Maybe you think that you can hide
I can smell your scent from miles
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Baby, I’m… (Hey)

[Verse 1]
So what you trying to do to me? (Hey)
It’s like we can’t stop, we’re enemies (Hey)
But we get along when I’m inside you, yeah (Hey)
You’re like a drug that’s killing me (Hey)
I cut you out entirely (Hey)
But I get so high when I’m inside you

[Pre-Chorus]
Yeah, you can start over, you can run free (Hey)
You can find other fish in the sea (Hey)
You can pretend it’s meant to be (Hey)
But you can’t stay away from me
I can still hear you making that sound (Hey)
Taking me down, rolling on the ground (Hey)
You can pretend that it was me, but no, oh (Hey)

[Chorus]
Baby, I’m preying on you tonight
Hunt you down, eat you alive
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Maybe you think that you can hide
I can smell your scent from miles
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Baby, I’m… (Hey)

[Verse 2]
So if I run, it’s not enough (Hey)
You’re still in my head, forever stuck (Hey)
So you can do what you wanna do, yeah (Hey)
I love your lies, I’ll eat ’em up (Hey)
But don’t deny the animal (Hey)
That comes alive when I’m inside you

[Pre-Chorus]
Yeah, you can start over, you can run free (Hey)
You can find other fish in the sea (Hey)
You can pretend it’s meant to be
But you can’t stay away from me
I can still hear you making that sound (Hey)
Taking me down, rolling on the ground (Hey)
You can pretend that it was me, but no, oh (Hey)

[Chorus]
Baby, I’m preying on you tonight
Hunt you down, eat you alive
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Maybe you think that you can hide
I can smell your scent from miles
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Baby, I’m…

[Bridge]
Don’t tell no lie, lie, lie, lie
You can’t deny-ny-ny-ny
The beast inside, si-si-side
Yeah, yeah, yeah
No girl don’t lie, lie, lie, lie (No, no, don’t lie)
You can’t deny-ny-ny-ny (You can’t deny)
The beast inside, si-si-side
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yo-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals (Hey, hey)
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals, oww!
(Yeah, yeah, yeah)

[Chorus]
Baby, I’m preying on you tonight
Hunt you down, eat you alive
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Maybe you think that you can hide
I can smell your scent from miles
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals
Baby, I’m…

[Outro]
Don’t tell no lie, lie, lie, lie
You can’t deny-ny-ny-ny
The beast inside, si-si-side
Yeah, yeah, yeah
No girl don’t lie, lie, lie, lie (No, no, don’t lie)
You can’t deny-ny-ny-ny (You can’t deny)
The beast inside, si-si-side
Yeah, yeah, yeah

Lyrics Source: Genius.com

Songwriters: Adam Levine / Shellback / Benjamin Levin Animals lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Universal Music Publishing Group, Downtown Music Publishing

Label: Interscope Records

Release Date: August 25, 2014

What are your thoughts on this type of love for another?

Taking That Jump On a New Lease On Life


I remembered writing the post below as part for a writing challenge five years ago. Different time. Different mindset. It is a wonder and something that is okay to do which is to look back to see how far you came. To check in with yourself periodically, you know? I do know that isn’t good to look into that rearview mirror, but I truly believe it is best to do so to learn from the past. Not to ponder on the past with the wouldas, shouldas, and couldas.

I have always been that person who was afraid to take that first step. I oftentimes will play Kelly Clarkson’s Breakaway and give into the lyrics. (Listen to song here.) I nicknamed myself Phoenix for a reason and I have to remind myself that no matter may have happened in life, that I must and will rise from the ashes stronger, smarter, and powerful.

I’ll spread my wings and I’ll learn how to fly
I’ll do what it takes ’til I touch the sky
And I’ll make a wish, take a chance, make a change
And breakaway
Out of the darkness and into the sun
But I won’t forget all the ones that I love
I’ll take a risk, take a chance, make a change
And breakaway
– Kelly Clarkson’s Breakaway

No matter what comes my way, I have to know that I must not be afraid to make a step, jump, slide, or sign into a new lease of life. How about you?


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As I think back on my past, I had realized how much I was afraid to take chances, to take risks, to just go for it. I would say to myself, “What would others think?” “Is this too much?” “Do I come across as know-it-all?” Now I’m to the point where I’m not afraid to just go for it. My dreams. My passion. My hopes and goals.

When you seek what matters to you, go for it. I’ve wasted years on my craft because I wouldn’t get support from others on how this may sound or what they thought. And, listening to others criticizing my hopes and dreams. Never again once more. I’m soaring. I’m reaching for the stars and I would like to see others do the same. It’s never fun to be at the top alone. Who do you wake up to? Who do you say good night to before closing your eyes?

I want and am taking that jump on what I strive to achieve. I’ve been down too much for too long and fighting my way out of a dark, suffocating tunnel of despair. Happiness and success are our friends. Determination and perseverance are up there as well.

I feel the wind in my face. I feel like I’m getting closer. I see that glowing light at the end of the tunnel. I know I see it, it’s something I longed for but never seen before.

So who’s with me to make that jump? Take that leap on a new lease at life that you always wanted. A life that brings you the qualities that you have searched for. Even when you have those not-so-good days, it’s okay because you are a fighter and you can get through anything you set your mind to.

Getting Inspiration From Twitter


Some of you may be on Twitter as often as you can. And some of you may get on every once in a while, every few days, or few weeks or so. I find myself on there every few days, though I’m slacking off with the word prompts events.

Another thing about Twitter is that other than connecting with those I follow there, I oftentimes find inspiration. Those inspirations may be for writing or life in general.

Below, are a few inspirations I’ve found on Twitter that I would like to share either you. Inspirations can come from anywhere. And they can remind you that though social media can be filled with superficiality, and can have its negatives, you can still find the good within it.

What inspires you, and do you find inspiration on social media?